Endo Prayer: Struggling With Lifestyle Changes

 

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It’s February and I haven’t been able to sustain the lifestyle changes that I set out to make. I’m discouraged because I feel like I keep disappointing myself. I can give excuses but deep within I know that I have been my greatest barrier.

Lord, please help me to see myself through your eyes. To love every part of my being. And to see these changes as a good thing, not a punishment, so that I do them out of a place of love.

Give me divine wisdom to know what to do, help me find what will work for my body. Change my attitude as I do this.

Strengthen me and renew my resolve to be kinder to myself in all that I do, to eat well and exercise. Help me to be a good steward of the body that you have given me. Even in the moments of pain, help me to see that you are right there with me.

In Jesus name, I pray and believe,

Amen

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7 Truths Every Endo-warrior Needs to Know

The Endo journey is colored with a lot of pain, uncertainty, darkness, medication and anxiety. Here are 7 truths that every Endo-warrior needs to know:

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1. It is not all in your head

Pain and discomfort are personal. There is no scale that it has to be measured by for it to be termed real. The manifestation of Endometriosis and it’s symptoms differs from person to person. You do not need any person, or physical depiction to validate your pain. Pain is your body’s way of asking for help, so it shouldn’t be ignored or covered up, but treated with the seriousness that it deserves.

2. You are not alone

One in ten women suffers from Endometriosis. Invisible diseases can be very difficult to live with, the truth is that many people may not understand, but that doesn’t mean that no one understands. There are communities of women who are willing to walk with you and stand with you. If you are in Kenya, you can plug in to Endometiosis Foundation of Kenya, Endosisters East Africa or contact me via Yellow Endo Flower. For the international community, please look for the Endo foundations or orgnaizations in your area.

3. You are strong

Holding on takes strength. When you are low on spoons and wonder how you will make it through the day, remember that your strength is intact. It is not measured by the things that you do or achieve; being takes strength, choosing to fight another day takes strength, crying takes strength, acknowledging your limitations takes strength. Oh, dear Endo warrior, you are strong, even when you feel like everything but it.

4. You are your greatest advocate

It is good to have a support system and good team of healthcare professionals. The truth is that they may let you down, and in the moment of despair you may feel defenseless and alone. Deep within you need to understand that you are your greatest advocate. No one can fight for you like you can. If something doesn’t feel right, stand up for yourself. Listen to your gut, the small voice that whispers the ‘buts’ and then speak up.

5. Information is power

There is a lot of information out there about Endometriosis, when you have the energy, read and research. Interact with others online and learn from their experiences. Read the fine print of pamphlets, then listen to how your body responds to medication.

Ask your health provider questions, and try to understand the procedures and treatment plans that s/he prescribes.

6. Your voice matters

When you are ready to share your story, please do, because your voice makes a difference. There are so many women who have no idea that Endometriosis exists, so many women who are suffering in silence.

If we all speak up we will cause a revolution, and many women will be able to get the proper diagnosis in less time and quality health care.

You can read stories of Kenyan Endo warriors here. If you would like to share your story please drop me a line via yellowendoflower@gmail.com

7. You are a star

Deep within you, there is a light that no amount of darkness can dim. Even the depths of Endometriosis and the darkness that it brings cannot hold you back. Take it a day at a time and try to see the silver lining on the grey clouds.

Shine. Dazzle. Be.

The Conversation Needs To Go On

Gone are the days when parents could wait for the eve of their child’s 12th birthday to broach the subject of adolescents and sex. Children are maturing much earlier now, also, they are exposed to a lot of informative content from a tender age. Their attitudes and thought patterns are formed long before they hit teenage.

The truth is that we live in a highly sexualized world.

Just because you are not talking about it doesn’t mean that your child is not listening.

The world is filled with opinions and children are wired to learn, from whoever is teaching.

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You can’t wake up the eve of your child’s 12th birthday and decide to be an authority on a matter they have heard about over the years from everyone except you. Unlearning is harder than being taught.

The seemingly uncomfortable subjects need to be discussed . Children can sense discomfort and shame. We as parents have to be careful not to pass on baggage to our children. If a certain topic makes you uncomfortable, perhaps you need to look within and see what exactly makes about it makes you feel uncomfortable and deal with it.

A truth zone

In my first post, I wrote about how I was told pads were called ‘mkate’ (bread). Honestly, it was such an unnecessary lie, but it stuck in my memory.

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It made me decide that my home will be a truth zone. There are enough lies being told out there, for me to come and add on to. My children need to know that I can be trusted to tell them the truth.

Can your child trust you to be honest with them?

When I say honest, I don’t mean spill all the beans, but tell them enough to satisfy their curiosity. Tell them the age appropriate truth.

Listen when they speak

It is important to listen to your children when they speak. Ask questions about both the small and grande things about their lives and listen. Turn down the noise, put away the gadgets and listen. Find out what makes them happy, their current interests and opinions. It’s easier to identify behaviour out of the norm when you know what the norm is.

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The conversation needs to go on. It starts now. Honesty starts now. Cultivating a relationship with your child that allows you to teach them the truth and life skills starts now.

We can sit back and blame the rotten society for our children’s beliefs or we can stand up and speak the truth.

You are an authority. Take your position and speak boldly.

Blessings,

Ess