While We’re Waiting

Waiting can be hard, lonely and devastating. The dark corridors can dull your spark of hope, the echoes of discouragement can fill your cheeks with sadness and cause your eyes to overflow with tears.

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Waiting Wombs Trust is devoted to walking with women who are waiting on the Lord to hold children in their arms. The reasons for waiting may vary but the journey’s hurdles are similar. The love, grace, care and information that you receive from Waiting Wombs Trust are unmatched. They are more than a support group, they are a family, for those who have despaired, those who have lost, those are hanging on, those who are waiting.

They are hosting a ladies conference #hopeinwaiting on September 21st to 23rd at Pelican Lodge, Elementaita.

Some of the topics that they will cover are:

  • Keeping hope alive
  • What to do when he leaves
  • Grieving
  • Adoption
  • Health

If you would like to register or partner with them, please text the word ‘Conference’ to 0723144000 or send an email to info@waitingwombstrust.org.

One of the songs that have encouraged me while I have been in seasons of waiting is

May the Lord strengthen you as you wait, may you truly run and not grow weary. May you soar on wings like eagles.

There is hope in waiting!

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#31 Days of Endo ~ Hadassa Trip

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It is always uplifting to read the stories of other Endo warriors who are braving through life, shining their lights and lifting others up.

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Editah Hadassa Trip is the founder of Waiting Wombs trust. She is walking with women whose wombs are waiting and sharing a message of hope.

She first shared her story with me in 2017.

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After our grand wedding in 2007, I wasn’t keen on conceiving in the first 3 years. We were on honeymoon so I didn’t see any hurry. I had also lost my sister during child birth and it crushed me.

 

Fast forward to the fourth year, I experienced horrible cramps, and visited a doctor who treated me for cysts. That was the beginning of our waiting journey, and the medication process. I was put on strong hormonal medication that nearly killed me, they had to be flushed out of my system fast.

 

I experienced my first “societal punch” when someone asked me to try different positions and stop wasting time. (I never lack sober responses for such questions – trust me .)

 

We kept trying, started visiting doctors who confirmed that all was well with us.
In 2010, I had a laparoscopic surgery where the doctor removed 12 fibroids and 6 cysts. I remember asking him how so many growths could be in one petite person. I recovered and went back to my normal routine.

 

Later, a pal gave me some herbal medication that worked for her after a long waiting period. This totally affected me and resulted in fresh cysts, said the doc. Reversing the effect was a painful process.

 

In 2014, I experienced another flare of pain and ended up in the theatre again, this time for an emergency open surgery. I was diagnosed with severe Endometriosis. I was then put on the those jabs that drive you straight to menopause (at least some of us know what menopause feels like, lol!) How do our mothers handle hot flushes?
I remember one day fanning myself ( July) and a client asked me ” Madam, ni kushuta ama joto?” (Madam, are you feeling hot or did someone fart?) lol!!
Anyway, I faithfully took the medication for 6 months. This time I was confident that I had recovered and my twins would come any moment – those twins are still coming :).

 

I have since gone for six Hysterosalpingograms¬†which is an X-Ray to see the inside of the uterus and Fallopian tubes. I’m not doing it again because the last one left me limping. I’ve been on crazy medication, used horrible herbs, and had uncomfortable procedures. At some point my hubby and I promised ourselves that we’d only visit doctors if we must. Oh, how I hate hospitals!!

 

PREGNANCY KITS

I need to mention how uncomfortable I feel buying the pregnancy kits. Knowing that it could be another 200 shillings washed down the drain. I know you understand that feeling only too well. There’s a time I was sure that the babies had at least settled in (Dr. Google can be a monster eish!). I took the tests thrice just because I wasn’t prepared for another negative result. I even tried putting on a different set of specs just in case my eyes were a problem. Call it “honest deception”. I think I cried for an hour or so after finally accepting the results. My eyes were so swollen the next day and I had to go to work. I survived .

 

Anytime I was put on hormonal medication e.g Clomid, my reaction was extreme. In one instance, I developed severe Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome. I react to everything! Literally!

 

THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS

Two months ago I was upcountry. An old lady relative approached me and said ” I saw the cause of your childlessness in a vision. Give me some money and let me pray for you “. Thank God my husband was there who politely told her off.

 

Some of the uncomfortable comments I have faced as I wait are:
“What are you still waiting for? ”
“You are pretending to be happy yet you aren’t.”
“Why are you wasting your husband?”
“You keep postponing this issue thinking you’ll be young forever- shida yako!”

 

Why am I sharing this? Why am I still hopeful and waiting? Does it mean that I don’t have low moments? No. I do. I am human and a woman for this matter.
We have however accepted that children come from God. See the Bible cases where ” The Lord opened wombs and conception occurred”? I cling onto such promises. I have faith that my conception will be natural because there’s God in heaven who can do the impossible.
Doctors can talk about infertility or barrenness but I don’t buy that, I am a waiting womb. Adoption is an option for us whether our Samuel comes or not. And as we wait, we’ll make the best childless uncle and auntie by God’s grace.

 

Should The Lord in His wisdom decide to withhold this blessing from us, we’ll still trust and serve Him. Doesn’t He have good plans for us? He’ll provide the strength needed to hang on.

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PARTING SHOT

Let’s be encouraged dear ones. Don’t allow your current situation to define you. You are special, you are loved.

 

There may be pressure from within, from in-laws, spouses ,society and all, hang on. Even Peninah could only do so much until The Lord remembered Hannah.

If you know a woman who is waiting on the Lord for a child, you can refer her to Waiting Wombs for more information. You can connect with Hadassa directly on Facebook.

Thank you for sharing your story with us, Hadassa, may God continue to grant you grace and strength to hang on and to hold other women’s hands. May He remember you. Keep shining!

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Dear Kenyan Endo Warrior, You Don’t Have to Walk Alone

Living with endometriosis can be hard. A majority of my memories are lonely, scary and empty. But, times have changed. I know that in the event I have a flare up there are women that I can call for advice, support and prayers. Women who get me, and don’t think that I am faking the pain or being unnecessarily sad.

Dear Kenyan Endo Warrior

The Endo community in Kenya has grown. It warms my heart to see the different people shining their lights and encouraging other women. The truth is just because, I walked alone doesn’t mean that other women should walk alone.

If you are looking for women to walk with, cry with and navigate this season with, please see below:

Endometriosis Foundation Of Kenya

It was founded by Elsie Hadassah Wandera. You can read her Endo Story and see what her journey has been like.

There’s a closed Facebook Group¬†for women living with Endometriosis, a Facebook Page¬†to create awareness about Endometriosis and a Whatsapp Group¬†to support Endowarriors in Kenya.

They have meet ups from time to time.

Endo Sisters East Africa

It was founded by Doris Murimi.

They have an office in Thika at Gospel Preachers Church, Karibaribi, Thika, near Mary Hill Girls school. You can follow the conversations on their Facebook Page.

They have their first monthly meet up on Saturday 6th May 2017 at Cake Plaza next Prestige Plaza, off Ngong Road, at 3pm – 6pm.

They go to schools and talk to girls about Endometriosis. If you would like to invite them to your school, you can send them an Email.

Waiting Wombs Trust

It was founded by Editah Hadassah Trip. You can read her Endo Story and see how the Trust was born.

They have a closed Facebook Page where they walk with women who are waiting to conceive and encourage them.

They will have their first meet up on 17th June 2017 in Nairobi from 2pm at a venue to be confirmed.

If you are feeling overwhelmed and depressed and you would like to talk to someone, please send me an email and I will put you in touch with someone who can walk with you.

Please don’t suffer alone. As always, I am here to pray with you, cry with you and laugh with you, because I believe that one day, soon, we will laugh.

Blessings,

Ess