While We’re Waiting

Waiting can be hard, lonely and devastating. The dark corridors can dull your spark of hope, the echoes of discouragement can fill your cheeks with sadness and cause your eyes to overflow with tears.

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Waiting Wombs Trust is devoted to walking with women who are waiting on the Lord to hold children in their arms. The reasons for waiting may vary but the journey’s hurdles are similar. The love, grace, care and information that you receive from Waiting Wombs Trust are unmatched. They are more than a support group, they are a family, for those who have despaired, those who have lost, those are hanging on, those who are waiting.

They are hosting a ladies conference #hopeinwaiting on September 21st to 23rd at Pelican Lodge, Elementaita.

Some of the topics that they will cover are:

  • Keeping hope alive
  • What to do when he leaves
  • Grieving
  • Adoption
  • Health

If you would like to register or partner with them, please text the word ‘Conference’ to 0723144000 or send an email to info@waitingwombstrust.org.

One of the songs that have encouraged me while I have been in seasons of waiting is

May the Lord strengthen you as you wait, may you truly run and not grow weary. May you soar on wings like eagles.

There is hope in waiting!

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31 Days Of Endo ~ Saum Hassan

Day 19 🙂

“Our goal is to make Endometriosis a household name.” ~ Michelle Lee Walters

The reason we share our stories is so that other women will know that they are not alone. Though some symptoms may seem peculiar, we need to understand that Endometriosis cannot be put into a box. It presents itself uniquely in every woman.

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Boldness, courage and strength are words that can be used to describe Saum Hassan. She is a 36-year-old  who lives in Kisumu and works as a counselor for a preventive Healthcare Provider. Her heart is filled with joy when she positively impacts other people’s lives. She has been living with umbilical endometriosis for the last one year.

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I started my periods in 1995 at  the age of 13 and I was excited about it. My peers used to sit and gossip together and call you a child if you hadn’t seen your periods. I was happy that I could now enjoy their company. My menarche was smooth and  I felt normal even though a few other girls would complain of cramps. Then, things changed in October 2002 when I was woken up by a sharp pain in my lower abdomen. I lay on the floor, writhing in pain as I literally screamed the house down and woke up everybody in the house. I saw my elder sister walk out and return with a small tablet on her palm and a glass of water. I took it and felt the relief wash over my body ten minutes later. I slept well and thought that was the end of it. Little did I know that it was just the beginning of a new journey altogether.

In the following months, I experienced pain accompanied by nausea, vomiting and loss of appetite. I gave birth in 2010, and when my periods resumed post delivery, they were worse than anything I had ever experienced. My frequent visits to the hospital didn’t bear fruit as the Doctors told me that the pain was normal.

I resulted to self-diagnosis with the help of Google when I started bleeding from the navel every month from March 2017. Just thinking about dressing my navel was very challenging, but I am more comfortable doing it now, since I have been doing it for a couple of months. During my research, I learned about Umbilical Endometriosis and my story was aired on NTV in February 2018 and K24 on 7th March 2018. As a result many doctors have confirmed the diagnosis though I am yet to go for a laparoscopy to get a proper diagnosis.

To treat the pain, I have been using Ibuprofen, diclofenac, and powergesic at home. When I got to the hospital I am given diclofenac and buscopan injections and also morphin intravenous. Sometimes, a towel dipped in hot water and a hot water bottle help to relieve the pain slightly. Drinking ginger and black pepper tea also offer some relief.

Endo has robbed me of my sense of fashion. I no longer wear skirts, trousers and anything clothing that puts pressure on my waist, due to the constant pain around the abdomen and navel throughout my cycle. Physically, I can’t stand for a long time because my legs start shaking. Sitting is also a problem because I can’t sit straight or lean forward. My social life has been affected because I have to keenly watch what to wear during those bad days and the days after my periods.

I’ve had to make several lifestyle changes including changing my diet.  I have reduced my intake of red meat and sugar. I drink a lot of water and have ginger and turmeric water every morning on an empty stomach

Eight years later, I am still trying to conceive as I hold my marriage together. Sticking to my new diet seems daunting, at times I ask myself if I will really be able to manage it.

Through this journey, I have learned that Endometriosis is real! Women to take reproductive health seriously. More awareness is needed to reach more women and young girls. Sharing stories inspires others to also open up. Doctors should be well equipped with the knowledge of how to help women facing this issue.

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I have found a good support system in the Endometriosis Foundation of Kenya. I have joined both the Facebook and WhatsApp groups and found women who have encouraged me. I realize that I am not alone. It’s important to have a support system, because that’s where we get strength and hope. I’ve been encouraged by the other endo warriors like Elsie Wandera, Njambi Koikai, and Ciru Muriuki.

My favourite flower is the Sunflower. Its brightness throughout gives me light and no matter how dark this endo journey may be there is light at the end of the tunnel.

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You can send her an email, or follow her on Facebook and Instagram.

 

Thank you for sharing your story with us, Saum, and for being bold enough to speak for the women who are suffering in silence. We pray that you get a diagnosis and treatment, and that you will have adequate grace and strength for the journey ahead. By God’s grace, may you hold your child in your arms soon. We are praying that a cure will be found soon and that the suffering of women will come to an end. Here’s to more happy and peaceful days ahead!

#31 Days of Endo ~ Hadassa Trip

Day 5 🙂

It is always uplifting to read the stories of other Endo warriors who are braving through life, shining their lights and lifting others up.

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Editah Hadassa Trip is the founder of Waiting Wombs trust. She is walking with women whose wombs are waiting and sharing a message of hope.

She first shared her story with me in 2017.

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After our grand wedding in 2007, I wasn’t keen on conceiving in the first 3 years. We were on honeymoon so I didn’t see any hurry. I had also lost my sister during child birth and it crushed me.

 

Fast forward to the fourth year, I experienced horrible cramps, and visited a doctor who treated me for cysts. That was the beginning of our waiting journey, and the medication process. I was put on strong hormonal medication that nearly killed me, they had to be flushed out of my system fast.

 

I experienced my first “societal punch” when someone asked me to try different positions and stop wasting time. (I never lack sober responses for such questions – trust me .)

 

We kept trying, started visiting doctors who confirmed that all was well with us.
In 2010, I had a laparoscopic surgery where the doctor removed 12 fibroids and 6 cysts. I remember asking him how so many growths could be in one petite person. I recovered and went back to my normal routine.

 

Later, a pal gave me some herbal medication that worked for her after a long waiting period. This totally affected me and resulted in fresh cysts, said the doc. Reversing the effect was a painful process.

 

In 2014, I experienced another flare of pain and ended up in the theatre again, this time for an emergency open surgery. I was diagnosed with severe Endometriosis. I was then put on the those jabs that drive you straight to menopause (at least some of us know what menopause feels like, lol!) How do our mothers handle hot flushes?
I remember one day fanning myself ( July) and a client asked me ” Madam, ni kushuta ama joto?” (Madam, are you feeling hot or did someone fart?) lol!!
Anyway, I faithfully took the medication for 6 months. This time I was confident that I had recovered and my twins would come any moment – those twins are still coming :).

 

I have since gone for six Hysterosalpingograms which is an X-Ray to see the inside of the uterus and Fallopian tubes. I’m not doing it again because the last one left me limping. I’ve been on crazy medication, used horrible herbs, and had uncomfortable procedures. At some point my hubby and I promised ourselves that we’d only visit doctors if we must. Oh, how I hate hospitals!!

 

PREGNANCY KITS

I need to mention how uncomfortable I feel buying the pregnancy kits. Knowing that it could be another 200 shillings washed down the drain. I know you understand that feeling only too well. There’s a time I was sure that the babies had at least settled in (Dr. Google can be a monster eish!). I took the tests thrice just because I wasn’t prepared for another negative result. I even tried putting on a different set of specs just in case my eyes were a problem. Call it “honest deception”. I think I cried for an hour or so after finally accepting the results. My eyes were so swollen the next day and I had to go to work. I survived .

 

Anytime I was put on hormonal medication e.g Clomid, my reaction was extreme. In one instance, I developed severe Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome. I react to everything! Literally!

 

THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS

Two months ago I was upcountry. An old lady relative approached me and said ” I saw the cause of your childlessness in a vision. Give me some money and let me pray for you “. Thank God my husband was there who politely told her off.

 

Some of the uncomfortable comments I have faced as I wait are:
“What are you still waiting for? ”
“You are pretending to be happy yet you aren’t.”
“Why are you wasting your husband?”
“You keep postponing this issue thinking you’ll be young forever- shida yako!”

 

Why am I sharing this? Why am I still hopeful and waiting? Does it mean that I don’t have low moments? No. I do. I am human and a woman for this matter.
We have however accepted that children come from God. See the Bible cases where ” The Lord opened wombs and conception occurred”? I cling onto such promises. I have faith that my conception will be natural because there’s God in heaven who can do the impossible.
Doctors can talk about infertility or barrenness but I don’t buy that, I am a waiting womb. Adoption is an option for us whether our Samuel comes or not. And as we wait, we’ll make the best childless uncle and auntie by God’s grace.

 

Should The Lord in His wisdom decide to withhold this blessing from us, we’ll still trust and serve Him. Doesn’t He have good plans for us? He’ll provide the strength needed to hang on.

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PARTING SHOT

Let’s be encouraged dear ones. Don’t allow your current situation to define you. You are special, you are loved.

 

There may be pressure from within, from in-laws, spouses ,society and all, hang on. Even Peninah could only do so much until The Lord remembered Hannah.

If you know a woman who is waiting on the Lord for a child, you can refer her to Waiting Wombs for more information. You can connect with Hadassa directly on Facebook.

Thank you for sharing your story with us, Hadassa, may God continue to grant you grace and strength to hang on and to hold other women’s hands. May He remember you. Keep shining!

#TheKenyanEndoStory: Hadassah Trip

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It is always uplifting to read the stories of other Endo warriors who are braving through life and shining their lights. Our third Endowarrior is Editah Hadassah Trip. She is the founder of Waiting Wombs trust. Hers is a story of pain, grace and hope. She is walking with women whose wombs are waiting and sharing a message of hope.

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After our grand wedding in 2007, I wasn’t keen on conceiving in the first 3 years. We were on honeymoon hence I didn’t see any hurry. I had also lost my sister during child birth and it crushed me.

Fast forward to the fourth year, I experienced horrible cramps, visited a doctor and was treated for cysts. That was the beginning of our waiting journey and the medication process. I was put on some strong hormonal medication that nearly killed me, they had to be flushed out of my system fast.

I experienced my first “societal punch” when someone asked me to try different positions and stop wasting time. (I never lack sober responses for such questions – trust me )

We kept trying, started visiting doctors who confirmed that all was well with us.
I had a laparoscopic surgery in 2010 where the doctor removed 12 fibroids and 6 cysts. I remember asking him how so many growths could be in one petite person.
I recovered and went back to my normal routine.

Later, a pal gave me some herbal medication that worked for her after a long waiting period. This totally affected me and resulted in fresh cysts, said the doc. Reversing the effect was a painful process.

In 2014, I experienced another flare of pain and ended up in the theatre again, this time for an emergency open surgery. I was diagnosed with severe Endometriosis. Was put on the those jabs that drive you straight to menopause (at least some of us know what menopause feels like lol!). How do our mother handle hot flushes?
I remember one day fanning myself ( July) and a client asked me ” madam, ni kushuta ama joto?” (Madam, are you feeling hot or did someone fart?) lol!!
Anyway, I faithfully took the medication for 6 months. This time I was confident that I had recovered and my twins would come any moment – those twins are still coming :).

I have since gone for six Hysterosalpingograms which is an X-Ray to see the inside of the uterus and Fallopian tubes. I’m not doing it again because the last one left me limping, crazy medication, horrible herbs, uncomfortable procedures. At some point my hubby and I promised ourselves that we’d only visit doctors if we must. Oh how I hate hospitals!!

PREGNANCY KITS

I need to mention how uncomfortable I feel buying the pregnancy kits. Knowing that it could be another 200 shillings washed down the drain. I know you understand that feeling only too well. There’s a time I was sure that the babies had at least settled in (Dr. Google can be a monster eish!). I took the tests thrice just because I wasn’t prepared for another negative result. I even tried putting on a different set of specs just in case my eyes were a problem. Call it “honest deception”. I think I cried for an hour or so after finally accepting the results.  My eyes were so swollen the next day and I had to go to work. I survived

Anytime I was put on hormonal medication e.g Clomid, my reaction was extreme. In one instance, I developed severe Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome. I react to everything! Literally!

THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS

Two months ago I was upcountry. An old lady relative approached me and said ” I saw the cause of your childlessness in a vision. Give me some money and let me pray for you “. Thank God my husband was there who politely told her off.

Some of the uncomfortable comments I have faced as I wait are:
” what are you still waiting for? ”
” you are pretending to be happy yet you aren’t”
” why are you wasting your husband?”
” you keep postponing this issue thinking you’ll be young forever- shida yako”

Why am I sharing this? Why am I still hopeful and waiting? Does it mean that I don’t have low moments? No. I do. Am human and a woman for this matter.
We have however accepted that children come from God. See the bible cases where ” The Lord opened wombs and conception occurred “? I cling onto such promises. I have faith that my conception will be natural because there’s God in heaven who can do the impossible.
Doctors can talk about infertility or barrenness but I don’t buy that, I am a waiting womb. Adoption is an option for us whether our Samuel comes or not. And as we wait, we’ll make the best childless uncle and auntie by God’s grace.

Should The Lord in His wisdom decide to withhold this blessing from us, we’ll still trust and serve Him. Doesn’t He have good plans for us? He’ll provide the strength needed to hang on.

PARTING SHOT

Let’s be encouraged dear ones. Don’t allow your current situation to define you. You are special, you are loved.

There may be pressure from within, from in-laws, spouses ,society and all, hang on. Even Peninah could only do so much until The Lord remembered Hannah.

 

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Her favorite flower is the red Rose. It is a symbol of love. Promoting family love regardless of situation.

If you know a woman who is waiting on the Lord for a child, you can refer her to Waiting Wombs for more information. You can connect with Hadassah directly on Facebook.

If you’d like to share your story on this platform, please send me an email via yellowendoflower@gmail.com and I will be in touch.

Blessings,

Ess